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Friday Thoughts Running Wild

Bonjour!

It's Friday! Time seems to be moving so fast. I'm heading back to Uni in 18 days and I'm really excited!! This will be my first summer away from home and it will definitely be interesting. I will be missing home because every summer my friends come back and we go out all the time; I also get a job somewhere (last year it was at a camp) and they are the best moments that I never want to end. I also have been home for the past 4 months (hence my anticipation to go somewhere else!) so I think it would be good for me to be in a different environment and to experience new things.

Honestly, this break was one of the most beneficial things I've done in my life (oh yes, living for 20 years is a long time). The fact that I made the decision myself made a huge difference. Sometimes you don't need anyone to tell you what your next step should be. All you need is to decide yourself that you are going to go away....and that you are going to go to that place in order to fall back in love with yourself...

I can jump, but asking me to fly is a bit too much.

I need to VENT. :)

Have you ever listened to someone who thought that their life struggles were worse than yours? No matter what, it seemed like their mind-frame is already set to auto-pilot?

When this type of mind-frame is set, it makes them see you in a different light and they refuse to see you for who you truly are. The sad thing is, and wait for it, they don't even know what YOU have been through.

"So how exactly are they assessing me" you ask?...

...Clearly through a judgemental window.

Most of the time if we get to know people we'll see that we might have a lot in common.

I'm saying that we need to stop and think that maybe this image one might have of someone else is something THEY want to see and not because the other person had been putting on a façade, but because it's what they are choosing to see.

It's frustrating. It's frustrating because no matter how hard you try to be the best you can, it's never enough for them and you realize that their expectations for you are just too high.

Unfortunately living life like that is only harmful because one day, and unexpectedly, that image will truly be shattered before your eyes...

I went to an International School where it was perfectly 'normal' for friends to come and go. It seemed like everyone's parents worked for an embassy or the UN, so when their time was up, they had to move to a new country. I found myself sighing and saying: "here we go again, time to make a new best friend".

The moments I experienced with my friends were always like a fairytale. It's always the best thing when you find not only friends who enjoy what you enjoy, but people who truly get you. The people who had left had understood me, and just when the friendship was being sealed with 'BFF' necklaces that we had bought for each other, it was also time to take our final picture for remembrance.

Now with Facebook, E-mail, Google, Twitter, Myspace...there are so many ways to check where your old friends are, and within 15 minutes you could be pressing 'Add As Friend'.

The question in mind is: is it a good idea to contact an old friend, or is it better to leave them in the past?

How To Avoid Getting Hurt

If you were my friend, darling I would have a protection program for you which brings an army of large men to beat up everyone who hurts you...but 3 things:

1. Non-friends need not apply

2. Friends, read on...

3. I'm sorry friends but I don't have an army of large men. Yet.

We occasionally get hurt over serious issues and sometimes over petty things that shouldn't even matter. Either way, it's understandable that being emotional and vulnerable sometimes sucks...especially when you're getting to know someone.

During the beginning stages of a relationship with anyone, be it for a friendship or for dating, remember to apply a few ''rules'' in order for you to avoid getting hurt. Relationship expert, Kara Oh had 7 ideas and I think that they are genius! :) So my bb's check out her strategy after the jump!