Showing posts with label friendship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label friendship. Show all posts
Boasting: Is There A Limit?
"He thinks the sun comes up just to hear
him crow." — Charles Martin
With boasting, I often contemplate whether it's due on insecurity or any other quality or feeling that is desiring to be dealt with. I can't blame everything on insecurity, but it's always clear that constant boasting about oneself is due a lack of something...
Let me give you an example and let's call this person Joe. Joe will talk about his life. I will listen. I will give advice and we are pretty much set to enter into a new topic....but wait, no, Joe's not yet done, he continues. It's okay to continue, but this time, instead of being 'real' and honest, something takes over and Joe starts talking about how great he is, what he has, what he has done and who he has done it with (no pun intended).
"Oh Joe..." I think "You were so good....until now"...
I can jump, but asking me to fly is a bit too much.
I need to VENT. :)
Have you ever listened to someone who thought that their life struggles were worse than yours? No matter what, it seemed like their mind-frame is already set to auto-pilot?
When this type of mind-frame is set, it makes them see you in a different light and they refuse to see you for who you truly are. The sad thing is, and wait for it, they don't even know what YOU have been through.
"So how exactly are they assessing me" you ask?...
...Clearly through a judgemental window.
Most of the time if we get to know people we'll see that we might have a lot in common.
I'm saying that we need to stop and think that maybe this image one might have of someone else is something THEY want to see and not because the other person had been putting on a façade, but because it's what they are choosing to see.
It's frustrating. It's frustrating because no matter how hard you try to be the best you can, it's never enough for them and you realize that their expectations for you are just too high.
Unfortunately living life like that is only harmful because one day, and unexpectedly, that image will truly be shattered before your eyes...
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